Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps

Melody Beatty has written another amazingly helpful book. I feel her advice and the storiesshe shares are so useful.

Amazing book and Melody Beattie is the Guru of Codependency. It is so well written and I have recommended it to a lot of people in 12 step. It is by far one of my favs.

With Melody's helpful, clear and revelatory style of writing, you get the feeling that you are talking with someone who "knows everything, has been there, and done that" and has come out on the very top. She leaves no stone unturned, yet writes in a clear manner that is very easy to follow. She writes with honesty. The stories that she has picked to illustrate the concepts that she is writing about are very much relevant to each concept. She spends time to take you through each of the steps and she is thorough and very in depth, and yet does not waste 1 word on anything trivial; and one doesn't get the feeling that she is moving on to another concept too soon. I recommend that you see her interviews on youtube as a supplement to understanding who she is and why she is doing this work.

This book is practical and inspiring

I just recently bought this book. I feel, for me, I could not have chosen a better book. I have many books which are extremely helpful, which I have bought from Amazon, and where I am in my life right now this book has been ablessing from my God! I never had seen this book and everytime I read the steps it has helped me oh so much asI recently found out I was taught to be co-dependent. I use it along with my AA program- sobriety comes 1st. alwaysI cannot say enough about this book, it is written so well by Melody Beattie and helps me immensely to see where I came from and turn it all around. It is exhausting to feel I am resposible for everyone's life. I am not and whatfreedom that brings me. I am learning I have power over myself only and it is o.k. to take care of myself on adaily basis. I would recommend this book to anyone who feels they have to be responsible for others and in the process one loses themselves! Not good!Thanks, Hope I have helped someone.

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This is my go to book for healthier relationships. I have read and used the guidance multiple times and consider it the best of any 12 step book I have used for codependent issues. I have better personal and work relationships, am surrounded by healthier people, are more able to avoid toxic people and situations and have more peace of mind from what I have learned from this book.

Good tools for life. Melody uses her experience, strength and hope to help anyone struggling with wanting to have better relationships with people. Co-workers, family, friends, significant others, spouses, everyone. Highly recommend

Very glad I took a chance on buying Used!

Great read love read, love Melody Beattie books

El libro era de segunda mano pero estaba en buen estado

著者のメロディ・ビーティは、薬物依存症から回復した後、自分の共依存症に気づいて、１２のステップを用いて共依存症から回復してきた女性です。この本は、著者自身の経験や、アラノンやコーダ、ＡＣＡなどの自助グループで回復した人たちの１２のステップの経験に関するインタビューに基づいて書かれた、共依存症からの回復方法に関する本です。　本書の特徴の一つは、アルコール依存症などのアディクションからの回復のための１２のステップの方法とは異なる、共依存症者のためのステップの活用方法を著者が示そうとしている点です。　例えば著者によれば、アルコール依存症などのアディクションからの回復のために１２のステップを実践する場合、自分自身や自分の行いに関する厳格な注目（almost harsh focus）や、「自我から抜け出る（あるいは自我を捨てる）」（getting out of self）ことについての厳しい注目（heavy focus）が必要だが、共依存症者にとっての１２のステップには、自分自身に対する優しい（gentle）態度を身につけていくことや、自我（the self'）を愛し、尊重していくことが必要になります（本書、１９３頁）。　そして著者は、このような観点から、共依存症者への深い愛と共感に基づいて、ステップ１から１２まで詳しく解説します。例えばステップの中で、具体的にどうしたらいいのかわかりにくい、４の棚卸しや８の傷つけてきた人の表の作り方についても、シンプルでわかりやすい（４については複数の種類の）方法を説明してくれます。　なお巻末には、ミーティングに参加する際の注意、自助グループで使われる特有の言葉の解説、アメリカの自助グループの連絡先、共依存症のための１２のステップの活用に役立つ本（一部は邦訳がある本もある）の紹介もあります。　私は日本語で翻訳されている複数の１２のステップの本を読んできましたが、読んでいてこれほど心を動かされたものは、本書以外にありませんでした。この本は、１２のステップでいうハイヤーパワーの配慮（care）に導かれながら、共依存症者自身が自分自身をケアし、愛していく方法を読者に示してくれます。特に難しい英語で書かれている訳ではないので、英語が苦手ではない方で、１２のステップで共依存症からの回復を目指したい人には、オススメです。

This book was exactly what I was needing in my life